How Normal People Overcome Their Fear Of Flying
Are you ready to overcome your fear of flying like most people?
This article explains how to overcome fears and phobias using the Meraki method. The word Meraki means “the love and the passion put into something”. The method is based on the idea that you can use your own passion, love, and energy to transform a negative experience into a positive one. By learning about the process, you can start using it for yourself.
What works and what doesn’t?
When you look up “how to overcome fear of flying” online, you get a lot of resources that don’t work. They have the same advice: Relaxing tactics, hypnotherapy, and meditation. Do those really help? According to my own experience as an NLP advanced practitioner, EFT trainer and energy healer, no one method works for everyone. Each person’s experience of fear is shaped by his or her unique past..
To start, here are 3 phases that help most of my clients overcome their fears(not only aero-phobia)
Phase 1: Accept your reality by naming it.
This is the first step to overcoming any fear or anxiety. You have to accept what’s in front of you, and not deny it.
Let me give you an example:
If you are afraid of flying, and you just booked a flight for your next vacation, instead of denying your reality (“I’m not afraid of flying, I hate flying, I don’t want to even think about it!”), try to name the reality (“Right now, I am feeling anxious about my upcoming flight”).
In overcoming fear or anxiety, you are better off accepting your feelings rather than fighting them.
Phase 2: Take control over what you can control and let go of what you can’t so you’re not in constant battle with yourself.
This is an important step because many people with fear of flying are in constant battle with themselves; they want to fly, but at the same time they don’t want to fly. They are torn between these two conflicting feelings, which causes a lot of anxiety. By deciding that you want to do something (in this case: fly), and then taking action on that decision, you won’t be in this inner conflict anymore. (This is also why many people who have overcome their fear of flying say that the decision was one of the hardest parts).
Phase 3: Together we create a ritual that helps you feel safe, calm, and relaxed in the midst of your fears.
One of the most powerful ways to manage your anxiety is to consciously create a ritual around it.
This is not just about doing the same thing every time you feel anxious — that can actually backfire and make things worse.
Rather, what we’re talking about here is a practice that helps you consciously recognize your fear for what it is, and then helps you do whatever you can to refocus on something else — anything else — instead.The ritual we create together is done for you with you and needs to speak to you and to you only!Together we create a ritual that helps you feel safe, calm, and relaxed in the midst of your fears. Here is an example of a ritual I create with a client:
For example, here is a ritual I created with ya client that loved meditations and breathing exercises.
In order to cope with my anxiety, I breathe in through my nose and out through my mouth to calm myself. I acknowledge the source of my fear, the sensations it produces in my body, and the probable outcome of the situation. With this awareness, I then say to myself “I am safe right now.” I will remember how many times in life where I’ve been afraid but nothing bad happened and that other people have accomplished incredible feats despite their fears. To conclude I will touch my nose, as a reminder of a fun time when I was 7 yrs old when I won a chess competition!
Scientists at the University of Zurich found that mental imagery helps people overcome phobias.
However, I would like to emphasize the importance of finding a technique that works for you. If you use one or two rituals that work for you, we will craft together as part of the Meraki process, once your fears have been scrambled, you should be able to fly calmly.
How to identify the real fear behind fear of flying?
Fear of flying comes in many shapes and forms. Some people are afraid because they don’t trust the pilot or the airplane. Others are anxious about being out of control; some panic at the thought of a stranger sitting next to them; and others just don’t like the idea of being trapped in a tube at 35,000 feet for hours on end. But all these anxieties have one thing in common: They can be overcome if you use the right method.
The Meraki Process is a three-step guide that shows you how to tackle your fear of flying, no matter what your symptoms are. It works by addressing the root cause of your anxiety, and then giving you tools to manage it.
For most people, overcoming a fear of flying is as simple as developing an understanding of the risk, and then working to reduce that fear by exposing yourself to the source of it while being in control. For others, it may take a more methodical approach, one that allows you to feel safe and secure in your environment. In either case, it’s important for you to recognize that you don’t have to suffer alone. If you think you might suffer from a fear of flying, reach out for help. There are plenty of resources at your disposal once we start working together.
What’s more, many of those brave individuals who have conquered their fears have shown that it can be done. They’ve demonstrated that flight itself is not to be feared. If any of them can overcome their own fears, then you can do so as well. The tools you’ll find here will help you to do just that.