What Is Fear Of Intimacy: 3 Surprising Ways To Overcome It
Fear of Intimacy: Why it feels like a prison
The fear of intimacy can feel like a prison. It can keep you from forming healthy relationships with friends, family, and even your significant other. You know that you want closeness yet there seems to be something holding you back. You might be afraid of being vulnerable or experiencing intense feelings or emotions.
You might be afraid of being rejected or abandoned.
Intimacy is important for any relationship but it can be hard to understand what makes intimacy so scary. Here are the three main ways to overcome this fear!
Understand the fear of intimacy and accept things as they are
You can’t be intimate with someone until you’re comfortable with yourself. I know it sounds like an impossible task but it doesn’t have to be.
One of the first things you can do is to understand why you’re afraid of intimacy. You’ll find that the more you understand yourself, the less frightening it will be.
Understanding your fears and anxieties will help you feel better about them. And once you feel better about your fear, it will be easier to work through them and overcome them.
For example, many people who are afraid of intimacy want to avoid getting hurt by their partner or having their partner leave them. If this sounds like something that’s been troubling you, try talking to your partner about it if you are in a relationship.
This way, they’ll know what triggers you or worries you and therefore they can help you.
If you are single you can start journaling or speak to an expert like me, to help you gain clarity about the root cause of this fear.
Some people are afraid of intimacy because it forces us to confront our deep-seated emotions and past experiences that we may not want to deal with.
Practice non-violent communication with yourself
When it comes to intimacy, the self-talk many people have is not always supportive. Instead of being kind to themselves, they are hard on themselves and don’t think they’re good enough.
Non-violent communication with yourself means being kind and understanding when it comes to what you say to yourself about intimacy.
If you catch yourself saying something negative about intimacy or another person, make an effort to change your thinking patterns by using positive affirmations, NLP, Meraki Ebook, and other energy practices like the ones I use in the Meraki Way method.
For example, if you talk to yourself thinking “I’m not attractive” when looking in the mirror, stop and tell yourself “I am beautiful in many ways”.
The whole healing process is an inside job. Identify the feelings you have, the needs that are not met, and the action to take to fulfill one need at the time.
You need to understand that your thoughts create a reality for you in order to change them. When you’re more compassionate towards yourself, you’ll be more receptive towards others and be a better listener in a relationship.
Commit to making small changes in your life.
One of the best ways to overcome the fear of intimacy is to make small changes in your life.
If you have a fear of intimacy, it might be time for you to make some changes in your life. You can start by making small changes and gradually working towards bigger goals. For example, you could take on a new hobby, start going to therapy, or spend more time with friends and family.
Some people might not feel like they need to change anything about their lives but they also may not be experiencing true happiness. Making small changes will help you slowly work your way into bigger ones!