How does self love differ from selfishness?
During a meeting with a client, the issue brought up was:
“If I take care of myself, I won’t be loved; I might be rejected for being considered selfish and egocentric“.
The issue of self-love is often perceived as selfishness.
I realized how often people are confused about these two concepts that when analyzed, are totally different.
The quality of your life and your relationships are determined by the ways you give yourself self love.
In this short post, we will explore the difference between self-love that leads to prosperity and selfishness, which is the result of lack of self-love.
Religion, social and family beliefs are the root cause of this confusion.
Is doing what you need to do like taking care of your body’s needs, self-care being at the top of the list, something you should feel guilty for?
Is putting other people’s demands before your demands the right way to end up in paradise?
Clearing Up Confusions:
We often get caught up in this kind of confusion believing that in order to be loved, seen, appreciated and at the center of attention, we need to put others’ demands before ours.
The answer to how self love differs from selfishness is answered in these lines below.
Now, as savvy professionals, we love taking care of others and healing their pains.
Of course, it becomes a habit to take care of others before taking care of ourselves, meeting our bodies’ needs and taking care of the goals we have as business owners.
Let us define what self-love is and selfishness is to give some clarity to those of you who feel that taking care of yourself first is considered an act of selfishness.
What is the Meaning of Loving Yourself?
“Love and do what you want” – St. Augustine
Taking this famous quote into account, loving yourself means that you are responsible for your results, so being responsible about how you feel will define the results you produce in the outer world.
Being in charge of your results means being responsible about how well you take care of yourself, including how much you love yourself.
If your tank is empty, you are tired and exhausted and you lack clarity about the mechanics of love and prosperity, then how can you help others?
What will happen if you never take care of yourself?Take it to the extreme and you will see that this is the biggest act of selfishness and fear.
Loving yourself will lead you to a total freedom which you can share with and offer to others.
Loving yourself means that you are not expecting others to fix you when you fall down, as you have the tools to do so or you know how to ask help, so that you become independent to heal what needs to be healed.
Loving yourself means that you know that everything around you is love ( St.Augustine famous quote) and that if you love greatly, you will receive the same in return.
How to Love Yourself again:
As a service savvy professional you are a supplior of love.
If you do not start loving yourself by eating the right foods, breathing in the right way, exercising and taking care of yourself, what is the quality of “love” you will be giving to your clients?
You can learn to love yourself again, just as you can learn any skill!
Only if you love yourself can you connect with source and share love, inspiration and healing to others.
How can you expect to receive if you do not love yourself? In other words, the more you love yourself, the more open you are to receive love and the more open you are to allow money to enter in your energy field.
Everything is about balance. Prosperity is about balance.
You need to take care of yourself, so that you can take care of others too. And taking care of yourself, loving yourself again, means taking care of your body, your relationships, your finances, and you spiritual well-being.
If you are not taking care of yourself with the excuse that doing so might be selfish, what you do is creating imbalanced relationships because you expect others to take care of you.
For some of us, unconsciously you are using the act of giving to attract more love and attention, which you are not giving to yourself.You can choose to change this belief now.
In order to create more balance and be more prosperous, you can choose to do what St Augustine is suggesting.
By taking responsibility of your own life and feelings, (this is what coaching helps you achieve) you are filled within with love, inspiration, creativity, joy and health in a balanced way.
You are not living in the space of needing others to fill your tank.
Instead, you become a source of love and inspiration where others can come to quench their thirst.
The confusion about finding the thin line between self-love and selfishness. Until you choose to clear up the confusuion this might lead you to the opposite result of what you really want: imbalanced lives, relationships and health problems.
You can learn to love yourself again and you can clearly feel, see and touch how self love differs from selfishness, if you decide to.
If you want to learn how to fill your tank with more love, joy, health and prosperity, I encourage you to join my prosperity weekly tips by clicking hereunder in the box at the end of this post.
For those that live in Lugano I am organizing regular Prosperity Cafès in Lugano and Italy.
The next one is on July 6th 2015 In Lugano, a mini-class on how to learn to love oneself again so that you can attract more of what you love easily.By my list you will recieve all details.