Are You A Shopper of Quick-Fixes To Avoid the Sense of Loneliness?



A lady approaches her priest and tells him, “Father, I must confess, I have a problem. I have two female talking parrots, but they only know how to say one thing.”

“What do they say?” asked the priest.

“They only know how to say, “Hi, we’re prostitutes. Want to have some fun?”

“That’s terrible!” the priest exclaimed, “but I have a solution for it. Bring your two female parrots to my house and I will put them with my two male talking parrots that I have taught to pray and read the bible. My parrots will teach your parrots to stop saying that terrible phrase and learn to praise and worship.”

The next day the woman brings her female parrots to the priest’s house. His two male parrots are holding rosary beads and praying in their cage. The lady puts her two female parrots with the male parrots.

“Hi, we’re prostitutes, want to have some fun?” repeated the female parrots, as usual.

One male parrot looks over at the other male parrot and exclaims, “Put the beads away. Our prayers have been answered!”

– Unknown Author

Are you shopping for positive emotions when you feel empty inside? How much joy do you feel during your day?

I have mentioned, from time to time, that we are human – we are not meant to be perfect beings.

To be human, we are open to all sorts – we make mistakes, we triumph, we become greedy… We know when we do it and what feeling you get from it is personal.
Whether you believe in a God, the Source, a higher, divine self or being, we all can relate to a form of self-awareness or spirituality.

There must be some great purpose in life, for the greater good, or wanting and needing to do things to feel fulfilled and complete.
In reading up to this point of this article, I am sure you are trying to respond by figuring out how your habits of shopping correlates to your spirituality.

Do you find yourself in these situations?

  • You go into a shop ‘just to have a look’. You tell yourself ‘there’s no harm in trying’. The next thing you know, you are buying everything (the shop assistant said ‘that looks really good on you’). You always feel the need to fill up that extra space in your wardrobe or cupboards in the house.
  • You think that it’s a good idea to buy clothes one size smaller to encourage yourself to lose weight. You do this every time, finding every other excuse to go shopping, and when you have done so it has given you a feeling like you are on a high and have fulfilled an important ‘mission’.
  • You have had financial difficulties while growing up. Now that you have the dough, you use it to purchase a load of things on your constantly updated ‘list of must-haves’ to feel complete – because now, you have everything!

This ‘attitude’ may not just apply to clothes, but also accessories, electronics, gadgets… even eating food. What puts them all together is how they are all done to fill in that feeling of emptiness – the more you do it, the more ‘full’ or complete your life would seem. However so, as quickly as that good fulfilling feeling comes, it goes away just as quick (which is why you end up stuck in this cycle)!

The truth that we all must learn is that when we feel empty inside, no gadgets, clothes or food would ever fill it up. What will, is remembering the essence of whom we are, by acknowledging that we are spiritual beings, and learning that mistakes are part of the game that makes the human experience.

In my S.P.I.R.A.L group-coaching program, I teach my clients to understand that we are whole beings since the day we were born because we are divine in all our aspects.

I also show them how to let go of patterns we often develop with our externals to fill an internal gap (such as shopping, eating and drinking).

  • Stop the negative, or worrying thoughts. When you are feeling down or depressed, this also lowers your spiritual energy. What’s the point in focusing your energy on something inevitable or don’t really know about? Simply surrounding yourself with positive people and reading inspirational stories can do you wonders. NLP and energy tools offer quick fixes from the inside out, try it by giving yourself a FREE sample prosperity session!
  • Meditation. It is one of the best ways to help you understand and feel your spiritual energy. When you clear and relax your mind, it can lead you to easily answer your own difficult questions. By feeling your spiritual energy, you also focus more on yourself other than relying on externals to make you feel complete.
  • Praying. It might not necessarily mean that you pray to God or a higher being – it can be to spiritual yourself. By praying, you reinforce faith and strength in what you believe in, and that gives you a better sense of being. The parrots aren’t the best of example. But hey, there is some truth in it, but all in good humor!
  • Work out: Physical exercise has a chemical impact on our brain well being and emotions, why not choose this path which offers so many advantages?
  • Talk to your loved ones. Being in touch with them and knowing that you can always turn to them for support can also allow you to feel whole and complete.

You would also feel better, when you are able to do the same for them! What are you waiting for to learn to be fulfilled no matter the outside circumstances?



  1. This is an excellent reminder for all of us, Patricia. Shopping for quick fixes on the outside to feel good on the inside is temporary at best and destructive in the long run. God knows I’ve engaged in my share of this madness.

    It all stopped when I learned to connect with my core self. This I did through meditation primarily, along with the use of energy-psychology tools. So I can vouch for the effectiveness of the remedies you prescribe.

    To fill the hole inside, you’ve got to connect vertically with your spiritual self (and/or a higher power) and horizontally to your fellow humans through supportive and nourishing relationships.

  2. What an inspiring post and great suggestions to remedy the issue!

    Fortunately for me it has been enough to just have the distraction of window shopping or playing games on the computer.
    Sometimes the feelings we are trying to escape need to be acknowledged and expressed, which at times can be difficult since we may have been used to keep a lid on them possibly since childhood. It is well worth it, since it sets free energy to get on with things.

  3. What a great post. Quick fixes never work, no matter what they are. Fortunately, I don’t have that problem. I’ve done a lot of work on my self over the years that If I feel down,or an emptiness in my day, I meditate or pray. Prayer has gotten me over many things. It is my quick fix lol
    Spiritually, if I am not connected each day, I do have to stop and to into myself to see what is the problem. It can be something that triggered me into a past experience. So I STOP what I’m doing and do some breathing exercises, meditate and pray.
    Thank you for this wonderful post. I am sure it will help so many people.

    • Thanks Donna for your comment.
      Connecting with our higher selves through prayer, meditation or other tools is always a way to stop the mind, listen to what is good for us bringing the energy to our hearts.
      the more we do it the less we need to find solutions outside of us.
      Hope to see you soon again;)

  4. Hello,
    I know I’ve done my fair share of shopping as most everyone has in their lifetime! I really love the message in your article, it’s so true. You have to find yourself before you can help yourself & others. Quick fixes are just that they don’t solve the issues long term.

    • Hi Doreen,
      this is one of the emotional pains all consumption is based on, otherwise how can we explain all these infinite number of goods and services we continuously buy to fix a part we know is broken and we do not have the courage to see and let go of….

  5. Patricia you have made some excellent points in this post. When you use shopping to fill emptiness in your life or get the quick fix it never lasts. Doing all the things you recommended will help us to connect with our true self and make us feel complete. Thanks for sharing your insights!

  6. One very simple, no cost way of getting rid of the worry and negative thoughts is to formulate a positive self talk that addresses your particular needs right now, and say your self talk out loud many times a day. 100+ times a day is best, but you will be amazed at what it will do for you if you say it 300-400 times a day.

    Willena Flewelling

    • Thanks Willena,
      this is an easy way to restructure your beliefs and there are quicker ways to do this muscle testing how your body reacts to the new programming.
      Very important to take action towards the new belief to produce extraordinary results.
      Thanks for your insight very useful.

  7. I normally go shopping with someone and a lot of times it is to see what is new. I know when I went through my divorce I did not shop to fill the loneliness. I just went about my life minus my husband. I still had my son to think about and raise.

    However, I have a friend who does actually do that every time she goes through a breakup. Apparently when she was growing up, her parents were always away (they are quite wealthy) and when she said she was bored, they just plopped more money in her credit card for her to spend. So I think this is out of a bad habit. *le sigh*

  8. Oh I love the joke and just copied it! Really powerful message and terrific tips. That one on your list about buying the size smaller sounds just a little too familiar for comfort. 🙂

  9. Hello Patricia –

    Bella Carissima!

    First I love the parrot joke – be careful what you pray for, it may actually happen!

    I love your points about praying, meditating, take care of yourself and stopping the “monkey” talk! I believe in GOD and I feel blessed that through all my trials and tribulations of life – I can happily say that in staying in “gratitude” it has taken me a long way baby!

    In love and light,

  10. Bravo Patricia this is an amazing article that you are sharing today! It is a wonderful reminder that we are not perfect and it is okay to have those ‘off’ days or off moments in our lives. As long as we do not dwell on the negative for too long.

    I always strive to have a positive attitude first. But must admit that I do have those times of frustration or disappointment that can bring me down.

    Your tips and advice are a good reference and an even better affirmation we should hold within our daily lives.

    • Thanks Lynn,
      I was in that situation long time ago and sometimes I catch myself doing too much of something else to anesthetize what I do not want to see.
      The good news is that I see this very soon and go back on track.
      Staying awake is also a habit and can be learned;)

  11. Patricia,
    Your points are wonderful. Exercise and pray/meditation really help me. n43 It’s very helpful to know your triggers. Great stuff, I love to shop and your story at the beginning was hilarious!

  12. Hi Patricia:

    This statement is so true: “The truth that we all must learn is that when we feel empty inside, no gadgets, clothes or food would ever fill it up.”

    So many people are looking for things to fill their sense of emptiness with. For me, that emptiness can only be filled with a relationship with God.

    Thanks for sharing this!

    • Hi Kevin,
      What a nice and profound comment;)
      We are never alone when we know in our heart that we are united to God so once this is clear everything is possible becuase any project or dream stems from a state of inner peace faith and prosperity.

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